Clarity, Change and Cheezies
I could go on and on sharing all the ways that Hawkins is not Cheetos. Whether you like your cheezies crunchie or melt in your mouth, is all a matter of taste and preference.
Kinda like men.
Crunchie men are edgy, dangerous, teetering on the side of player with a sprinkle of ‘never know where you stand surprise’ that keeps you curious and engaged. But this man is selfish and cares nothing for your well-being or feelings.
Soft men are the safe, solid, and committed nice guy type. This guy may not arouse all your passions but you trust he’ll accept your insecurities and flaws. But because his mixed bag of sensitivity is close to the surface and obvious, the relationship will trigger his wounds, fears, and neediness. You may all too quickly fall into the role of mother, helper, and therapist.
The holy grail of men is the exciting man who seems dangerous but isn’t.
He’s lit up with passion, goals, and purpose (Think Clark Little or Prince Harry). He is kind, but not so nice that you don’t respect him. He thinks you’re a keeper, but isn’t so needy that he wants to marry you on the third date. He knows you’re the one, and you feel secure as he builds the foundation of your relationship over time.
As a love and dating coach, I hear a lot of complaints about men.
There’s a place for this – because underneath that share is a deeper need and hope for change.
Here’s where most dating advice leads too nice women astray – they talk about what you need to do to change him.
Yes, can you act differently and create a more desired response from a man – ABSOLUTELY!
All too often the change is surface, short-term, and requires consistent effort on your part.
Truth…. maybe you just need to choose better men
Maybe it’s time to stop making adjustments and concessions; putting in all the effort to help a man tow the line.
Sometimes, after asking and asking for change – you need to BE THE CHANGE (for you).
Instead of changing to inspire him to love you, spend that energy being your most fabulous, happy, and emotionally connected self – to attract a man who is falling over himself to be with you.
I’m super passionate about helping you change your love life for the better – are you?!!
