3 Things You Must Have to Get The Man & The Money
There are two kinds of people in this world those who have it all and those who get the leftovers.
Me? I was unsure of myself, never going for the kind of guy I always wanted, until suddenly with age and emotional wear and tear those men we no longer interested or available.
There are two kinds of dater’s in this world, the confidence, love-savvy gal who knows her worth and the undervalued gal who feels used up.
I have a beautiful, powerful and spiritual friend who has it all. She’s the kind of woman you can’t help but look up to but always feel a little (okay a lot) less than in her presence. Not because she would ever make anyone feel bad, but because her knack for attracting love, support, opportunity, and making things happen pales in comparison to what most have accomplished (despite a similar level of dedication and talent).
It made me curious (not jealous), what does she do different to create wild success?
I noticed two things.
On a practical note, my friend is a natural connector, easily attracting savvy entrepreneurs, fit gurus, and holistic types into her world. While she came from a closed wealth circle you can only be born into, and scads of support from family and friends I can only imagine receiving, her investment in relationships has been a key to success and happiness. Let’s be honest no one does it alone. Becoming an amazing community builder in an authentic way invites more growth and support.
Deeper than her ability to attract support, my friend has an unquestioned belief in herself. She knows her worth and acts confidently from this place. She never doubts her deserve-ability or capability. She is secure carrying herself with poise, strength and confidence of Cate Blanchett.
We all know a woman like that. Maybe for another woman, you are that gal. Beyond comparison, there is only one core difference between you and that gorgeous, envy-evoking goddess you admire so greatly: self-worth. The woman you admire loves herself, and every single cell in her body believes she’s worth everything she is offered and more.
The problem with the nice gal is that she never feels good enough.
The nice gal struggles to accept a compliment or receive support. She shy’s away from the affection of a hot guy because she feels intimidated. Paralyzed by fear of failure and perfectionism she struggles to finish what she starts staying in the shadows, under-expressed.
My gorgeous goddess of a friend I admire didn’t experience child abuse, date rape, bullying, abandonment from parents, foster care and the responsibility of living on her own at the age of 17. She didn’t have to endure being repeatedly lied to, taken advantage of, cheated on, abused or manipulated. While this is my story, it’s also the story of the many Nice Gal’s I’ve coached over the years. All of us who received that “not good enough’ message early got the shitty end of love and life as a result of that programming.
My girlfriend’s secure and loving upbringing supported her to form an esteemed self that insulated her from harm and gave her the power to self-actualize. I’m so grateful for the way she has mirrored the worthy woman identify I could claim for myself. I invite the same for you.
When you see a gorgeous woman like that, stop and see yourself in her poise and power. Know that underneath the wounds and the lie of unworthiness is a woman of purpose and value.
Follow this woman into self-love land to raise your deserve level, makeover your Nice Gal identity and adopt her ‘I believe in me’ sass and class.
The three things you must master to rock the I deserve it, I am fabulous mojo is:
• Self-worth
• Confidence
• Trust
With those three ingredients, you become WORTHY, CONFIDENT & UNSTOPPABLE!
Love,
Maryjane, xoxo
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