Hope When You Feel Alone
Mother Theresa once said, “ The greatest disease in the West today is not TB or leprosy; it is being unwanted, unloved and uncared for.”
Mother Theresa once said, “ The greatest disease in the West today is not TB or leprosy; it is being unwanted, unloved and uncared for.”
We live in a digitally connected, information age where we have access to everything, yet despite this, more and more people are feeling alone and isolated. We’re all too busy and overloaded, with too much to do, and not enough connection to fuel us to meet these ever pressing demands.
For Nice Gals, who’ve experienced deep levels of heartbreak and disappointment, feeling alone has less to do with access to others and more to do with the level of belonging and acceptance they experience.
What if your Nice Gal isolation has less to do with the demands and pressures of life and more to do with having endured too much pain?
Isolation becomes a survival strategy to cope with emotional exhaustion.
Everyone is programmed to avoid pain and seek pleasure, so once loving no longer feels safe, nice gals understandably choose safety over risking further disappointment or rejection.
If you relate, please, take a deep breath and have compassion for yourself. It is only under extreme duress that anyone would choose isolation over connection. You’ve been hurt. Withdrawal is simply a way to protect your tender heart.
Withdrawal and avoidance work temporarily, but left unchecked for too long staying safe and alone, erodes trust, exaggerate fears, and prevents you from healing the underlying sadness you feel.
My aim is to encourage you to admit you long for more than you’re experiencing and further to empower you to heal the pain that is keeping you isolated.
Aloneness can be a conscious and nurturing choice when you’re consciously using that time to explore your true feelings and discover who you really are and what you ultimately want in life. But when being alone is a go-to strategy to avoid let down, self-protection at the cost of personal happiness is no longer an option.
If isolation is a choice you’re making out of self-protection, let’s begin to ask how we can make connecting feel safe.
When you shift into the possibility that connecting can feel safe, good and fulfilling, then your HOPE becomes greater than your fears and you become more powerful than your past.
Margaret Wheatly, says it beautifully:
“Relationships are all there is. Everything in the universe only exists because it is in relationship to everything else. Nothing exists in isolation. We have to stop pretending we are individuals that can go it alone.”
I’m here for you. You’re not alone.
You’re worth loving, and deserve to receive as much love as your heart can allow, so let’s find a way to heal your past so you can let love in.
Here’s a free handout to get you started! hope-when-you-feel-alone-15-ways-to-let-love-in-1
Love,
