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Rise Up Worthy Woman!

I remember the day I hit the lowest of lows. I had gotten hooked on a charming man who turned out to be a destructive, addicted narcissist. An assault and miscarriage later, my self-esteem in shreds and my business and finances failing, I found the courage to find myself again in the brokenness.

One thing made healing and recovery from unhealthy love and trauma possible:  RESOLVE.

Mustering the will to keep going, something inside me shifted. I had maxed out my capacity for suffering and a fierce “NO MORE!” tipped me over the edge.

Instead of falling into an uncertain abyss, I landed securely in my commitment to never lose myself again. Dedicating to never fall so hard and fast for someone that I allowed or tolerated less than treatment.

While I was absolutely a victim, I later exposed myself to further harm by not self-protecting. I ignored the warning signs, believing the fantasy. Even after truth shattered the illusion, I stayed rescue mode, trying to save him to save myself. It’s too easy to look back and judge my stupidity, but I now understand how subtle progressive shifts in a relationship can land you where you never expected to be, stuck in an abuse cycle.

It is because of the devastating pain of this relationship and the neglectful one that preceded it, NO MORE NICE GAL was born. I became determined to use my pain and mistakes to prevent women everywhere from the pain of being too nice, avoiding the inevitable disappointment and failure that follows.

There is one simple shift you can make today that will stop you from being betrayed or heartbroken ever again.

RESOLVE!

The resolve of SELF-COMMITMENT will keep you from betraying yourself to please or settle. It will give you strength to open to true love, live worthy, and believe in your dreams.

Forget about romance, flowers and prince charming come to rescue you. I invite you to commit to your own happiness and worth with NO MORE NICE GAL conviction.

Stop waiting to be in a committed relationship to COMMIT TO YOURSELF. Start by practicing the first NO MORE NICE GAL PRINCIPLE: I put my happiness and well-being FIRST.

By following this commitment you’re promising to NO LONGER date a man who doesn’t care about your feelings, neglects you, abuses you, and doesn’t appreciate the woman you are. Or even if he’s a good guy, not settling for less than all you really want.

From today moving forward, you’re going to set the standard high.

You are promising to love yourself, to be in a healthy, drama/abuse/neglect-free relationship where you feel adored, special, valued, cherished, heard, appreciated and loved for yourself.

RESOLVE today to make choices that meet your needs in ways that grow your self-worth and self-respect, in accordance with your highest values, goals, and dreams.

(Can I get an AMEN!! whoo-whoo!)

When faced with temptation or when making any decision, ask yourself:

I guarantee, your heart and intuition will never say: yes, please compromise, accommodate, please at your own expense, tolerate long absences, inattentiveness, infidelity, or ignore that he’s addicted, emotionally unavailable, immature or married. NO!

Your inner knower and wise heart will steer you towards a self-affirming path that leads to real love.

I love you and want the best for you.

I want you to feel secure, hopeful, supported, lovable and worthy.

I know that what makes love possible is when we come alive within, energized by the love we demonstrate to ourselves. This means no longer accepting anything less than big love from others.

P.S. Waiting for what you really want gives you courage, confidence, self-worth, and power. You’re worth the wait.