Aim High: How to Feel Calm, Confident and Certain With Men
“The places where you have the biggest challenges in your life become the places where you have the most to give.” Tracy Millian
It’s hard to feel confident with men when you’ve never done it before…
It’s hard to believe in yourself when you’ve been knocked back…
It’s hard to be assertive when you doubt yourself…
It’s hard to feel good enough when you haven’t been sufficiently loved.
You can turn the weakness of nice into strength.
The behavioral hack every Nice Gal needs to create the career, social life and relationship she wants, depends on her ability to remain calm, confident and certain in every interaction.
Truth is we don’t know what we don’t know. Even a strong woman can stop taking care of herself in the presence of a certain kind of man. The key is to learn how to connect differently, trusting ourselves to create our own happiness and believe we’re enough.
Be encouraged, feeling calm, confident, and certain is a learnable skill with a FORMULA you can follow.
The first part of the confidence formula is to know what you stand for and aim high.
Nice Gals consistently struggle because they lose themselves for love.
They don’t stand up for what they want, so they consistently get less.
Despite all the noble and amazing qualities that make Nice Gal’s good catches, the habit of settling for less, makes them lose their way in relationships.
The habit of adapting to others and their circumstances means they never consciously direct their lives. It’s no wonder Nice Gals fail to achieve the life they’ve imagined.
TAKING A STAND changes this! It gives Nice Gals the confidence to command the respect, adoration, and cherishing they so rightly deserve. It puts them in the driver’s seat of their life with the power to ask for what they desire.
A NICE GAL MUST NO LONGER…
• Adapt to please and accommodate
• Care what others think, hiding her true self
• Say YES when she means NO
• Fit in to gain acceptance while forgoing personal needs
• Compromise her values, needs, and desires to avoid rocking the boat
• Settle for less than from a man who isn’t treating her with love and respect
• Hide, isolate or avoid believing she can do it all by herself
HERE ARE THE AIM HIGH STANDARDS.
RESPECT YOURSELF BY SETTING HIGH DATING STANDARDS AND HOLDING FAST TO YOUR PRINCIPLES.
For example, date slow, taking your time to get to know someone before becoming exclusive and wait three or more months before you ever become intimate. This stops you from being used.
ACT WORTHY SO YOU ATTRACT WHAT YOU DESERVE
Without self-worth, you’ll think ‘I need to make this man happy and be good enough for him’. Then, you’ll spend the relationship changing, compromising and over-giving in order to compensate. Developing self-worth frees to be your genuine self and stop jumping through hoops trying hard to earn love. When you feel certain you’re worth loving, a man knows it too.
BUILD YOUR DATING CONFIDENCE AND COMPETENCE
The way you’ve been looking for love up until isn’t working. The only way you can create a lifetime commitment with a man is if you show up as your most secure, worthy, calm, and authentic self. Confidence is a skill you can develop and competence a matter of having the right knowledge.
Once you have the FORMULA, you can feel Calm, Confident and Certain, in a relationship with a man. High standards support you to take control of how men treat you and finally get the love you deserve.
Love,
