Live Like You’re Loved
I was told more than once as a child that I was a mistake. My mother was made to feel ashamed of my birth and this shame passed to me. Add neglect, abandonment, and abuse at the hands of others and I had a perfect recipe for unworthiness.
I spent so much of my life defiantly trying to prove I was important and deserving while believing the lie of not good enough. Each time I got close to breaking free, fear took over, and I’d stop short of my potential.
Maybe you relate.
Today is my birthday. With every birthday I always feel the energy of change and the possibility excites me. My potential pays a visit coaxing me out of hiding, tempting me to risk letting go of the illusion to remember who I am. The same way your inner self is beckoning you, now.
Living like you’re loved is the path to the self-worth and relationship you want. To reach it, you must remember ‘who you were’ before shame, fear, pain, loss, rejection, hurt, and abandonment made you forget your gifts, purpose, and power. The self you lost to trauma and the self you gave away piece by piece trying to get others to love you.
The key to the life and relationship you desire is to live like you are loved; the act of aligning your self-identity with your intrinsic value. It is about believing the voice of I can, I am worth it and watch me,instead of the voice of “it’s too much, something must be wrong with me or who would love me like this?”
It comes down to a choice for which voice you’ll believe: which identity you want to claim. One identity said I was unwanted, not worth time, attention, affection, and support. The girl who would never belong, who was different, less than, apart from others: an ugly mistake who couldn’t do anything right.
In contrast is the identity living of my namesake. The meaning of the name Maryjane is “wished for and beloved child of a good and gracious God”. Wished for and beloved means I was an expectant delight for a good God who saw me as perfectly lovable. Much like the way I see my little boy Adam as unconditionally worthy (as is and no matter what).
The truth is you are a unique, one-of-a-kind beloved creation too. You were created for a purpose. You have gifts to share. You’re worth loving. You are loved (perfectly).
My call-out for 2018 invited you to make the choice for love: to adopt the identity of a woman who is loved, wanted, special and whole so the voice of not good enough and doubt can’t creep in and rob your birthright.
Living like you’re loved changes everything!
It changes how you feel. It changes what you attract. It changes what you’ll tolerate. It changes how courageously and creatively you show up in the world… and all for the better.
Love is the answer.
And you are made from love.
You are loved.
Live like you’re loved and experience will catch up, reflecting this love in your friendships, family, and with men.
Decide now to let go of a not-good-enough past and live like you’re worth the love you desire.
Love,
