Perfect Love
“We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.” Sam Keen
I love this quote. It reminds me to abandon the ego’s demand that I perfect myself for love and instead, encourages me to claim my worth and access spiritual love.
As an Intuitive Life and Love Coach for over two decades I can tell you that whatever “pattern” my clients are struggling with – perfectionism, limiting beliefs, people-pleasing, self-doubt, self-sabotage (and the list goes on of all the ways we Nice Gals hold ourselves back), the core issue is unworthiness.
It doesn’t have to be this way.
Not all parts of you experience this separation from love, otherwise, you would live in constant fear and despair. Only fragmented “younger selves” carry this pain and loss. In our brilliance, the mind adapts finding ways to feel good and secure acceptance and belonging.
But at some point, you realize confidence doesn’t equal self-worth, accomplishment doesn’t make you more deserving, avoidance doesn’t prevent pain, and perfectionism and people pleasing can’t protect you from heartbreak and pain.
You realizing being NICE works only temporarily and it’s exhausting.
There comes a time in your personal growth path where your efforts simply hit their limit and you cannot reach your full potential with the status quo.
What I know for sure, is that until every part of you feels worthy independent of external validation you’ll forever chase after love and always need to prove you’re worth it.
You’ll attract or play out this underlying pattern of unworthiness in relationships until it’s healed. Never feeling whole, and unable to trust yourself, you’ll struggle to attract a loving man until the fracture is healed.
This February bring love back into your life by reclaiming your most precious, loved and worthy self. She’s been waiting to embrace you unconditionally.
You’ve always deserved love,
